He buries his head with the cancer in some ways and to the world makes out he's strong where I see his true mix of emotions and his fear at home. He has lost so much weight. Wishing you both a lot of courage and I hope we can all get a little comfort soon. We are both trying to be up beat and positive but some days it is just so hard. Psychologically we both feel better, and all of a sudden all the support network has kicked in aswell. It gave me 60 seconds to just take my mind off my terrible reality and give us some time to laugh. Wish me luck!!!!! Very soon it seemed he became controlling and jealous and I could not do anything right. Up until a few months ago , he was a strapping 6ft2" active husband and father and now I feel I am looking at the shell of what he used to be. The idea for an Instagram page came from Riley's sister. I am in a similar position although in my case there is a lot of questions yet to be answered as we are only at the very beginning of our journey but things are pretty scary for us too. more than 2 years ago, I am going thru this now. My husband of 30 years my best friend for 35 years was just diagnosed with stage 4 throat cancer. The oncologist actually said I will do my best but you have to do your part too. Full of expletives (ear muffs for kids please), hysterical rants and a moving revelation about her three year old son's morning ritual that forces her daily to rise to the occasion, this off-the-cuff conversation jettisoned past a long line of previously recorded episodes to be the first episode of our 2021 slate. We were married only 8 months ago and my husband had his cancer diagnosis six weeks later. While my husband David did not die from his cancer, his diagnosis did introduce the stark reality of what could happen. Have you got some support? I had to have open heart surgery because of a 100% calcified heart valve although I had no other problems with blockage or anything. If your husband was a decent man before maybe it's the cancer that has caused him to react in this way. I can hardly cope with this unknown and it breaks my heart to see him so weak. Their life changed in that instant. Although I have told a couple of work colleagues and they are being very nice to me. They deleted the post the same day. My husband is 62 andhadn't been well for a while but he is one of these people who just won't go to the doctors On 16th January he collapsed in town and he had to (reluctantly) go to A&E where they did tests and found a large tumour on the CT scan (colon). Im angry that people who see him now wont know him for who he really is the strong man who years ago kicked kidney failure to the curb and lived a healthy, active life for 20-some years with a transplanted kidney. Because we can work around the brand on how you think the world perceives you butyou need to go out there and ask random people, 'When you think about me, what'rethe first few thingsyou think of?' We trying our best to be positive but it so consuming. I have 2 children, 1 at home, 1 at university. Thinking of you and hoping you are coping at this difficult time. The 39-year-old is currently on her Back in Action comedy tour and preparing her sixth Netflix special. Thank you for your response . They had not completed the whipples procedure but had only done a biliary bypass. When her husband was diagnosed with cancer, her sister thought starting an Instagram account might give Riley an outlet. When Lisa Marie Riley found out her husband had an aggressive 8lb tumor in his stomach after complaining of a stomach ache, her sister and friends set up an Instagram account for her and told her that, instead of texting them on their group chat (which she hated), she could just post videos to Instagram for . The cancer had already metastised to his liver. I've read everyone's comments and I honestly honestly feel for every single one of you. Published Completely withdrawn. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations. He went through a radical surgery, followed by a regimen of radiation, chemotherapy, and a clinical trial drug. This has made him feel very sick and tired. I can let him go to get treatment, I can't let him go to put him in the ground. For him, for us. In addition to being a hilarious wife and mother, Lisa Marie, who was born and raised in Brooklyn, lives on Staten Island. Rarely says I love you. Her followers have connected not just with her, but with each other as well, she said. We thensee the consultant again on Thursday to see if he's going to be offered any more treatment, and I'm feeling exactly like you did. New Jersey Stage 2023 by Wine Time Media, LLC | PO Box 140, Spring Lake, NJ 07762 | info@newjerseystage.comNobody covers the Arts throughout the Garden State like New Jersey Stage!Images used on this site have been sent to us from publicists, artists, and PR firms. You cannot believe how happy I was to read your post! Discovery Company. He is severely cognitively/physically impaired and I'm told by Drs, that he will continue to deteriorate. So, I had an "awake trach" procedure prior to the actual biopsy. I loved him very much. I fully agree with Billygoatt, in that you need to take care ofyourself. I immersed myself in mothering babies and toddlers and, as the parents of eight children, we were often struggling financially. If youve been knocked down get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. Although I continue to tell her: "We'll get through this." We are heartbroken., A post shared by Lisa Marie Riley (@onefunnylisamarie). In order to understand his needs. It will test you. Cancer can changepeoples outlook, they can become dependent, depressed and their outlook in life can change. While Im at it, lets not forget to mention our intimacy. My husband is going downhill quite quickly , and I do wonder if he will make it to his next chemo session in 2 weeks time. But I feel my heart is breaking, and in so much emotional pain and physical pain, I struggle to cope at times. We didn't get married till in our 40's, I cried all the way through my vows..Happy crying, that I was actually going to marry him finally. Did you encounter any technical issues? I've been coping with cancer for three years (my husband) and he has been very much like this at times, at first I let it go then realised that the more he did it and I said nothing the more he did it! When her husband was diagnosed with. I'm saying it.". He was 40 years old. Its a good one. It's not gonna to change.". Really sorry to hear that - I'm at the other end of that journey - my wife died after 3 years of cancer back in October. Maybe assomeone else mentioned on here could you stay at a friends for a few days to give yourself a break,write him a letter with some happy memories and also how your feeling now which he could read and reflect on. Alongside the lighthearted videos, Riley would provide updates about her husbands cancer treatment. We WILL get through this !!! Riley soon began started delivering monologues about her daily life. Everyday I dread getting up and having to facea new day dealing with cancer, I am so very frightened and scared. It is breaking my heart and I can hardly seethrough my tears to type this. My throat almost closed up & left me with an airway passage of 5-10%. At the end of a long day, she sometimes climbs into bed and reads the kind comments from strangers in Ireland, Canada, Australia and around the United States. I feel I am on a very lonely and scary journey . I really hope your meeting with the consultant this afternoon has gone better than you hoped, and your husband can have another course of chemo. omg sat here in tears again due to the same situation ,been married 34 years and my husband can be a bully at times ,but since he was diagnosed with cancer last year hes become horrible expects me to do everything for him with no thanks at all ,i too struggling with my own health issues .i hate to say when hes in hospital its a welcome break from his nastiness,and i canrelax.he isn't terminal but seems to be happy being dependent on everyone else to do for him ..i thought i was horrible feeling so cold and angry ,while hes the one with cancer and whose had the operations and infections he loves the nurses saying how well hes done and he's always laughing and joking with them ,until they try to get him to move that is . * To protect your identity do not use your full name. It leaves you mentally and physically knackered and I mean it when I say Inever want to go into another relationship for as long as I live. My humor doesnt particularly come from where I live. For now, however, being known as One Funny Lisa Marie is enough fun. You'll find a lot of caring people on line here that you can chat to in the dark times - you'd be surprised how many posts are in the middle of the night - well maybe you'd not be that surprised eh? I try sohard to be strong for him and ourdaughter, but I look at him and feel so angry that he's going though all of this pain and anguish. "I wasn't trying to be funny, I was just trying to be myself," Riley told Insider. Access your favorite topics in a personalized feed while you're on the go. He had a pump fitted yesterday to give him pain and anti sickness relief and that is certainly helping. more than 2 years ago, I dont know my husband anymore. I am sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation although you probably understand best what I am going through. He has just finished round 3 of chemotherapy and she shares that the videos give her an outlet . I really hope this doesn;t sound selfish, and the main reason I am posting this is to see if anyone else has had the same experience and if so how they coped, and in fact if they coped, becuase I'm struggling and ready to give up. Im livid that you are crushing the spirit of a guy who could drive a tractor and bale hay like a farmer but on weekends could maneuver a speedboat practically blindfolded around Lake Cumberland. This article was originally published on June 4, 2017, The Adderall Shortage Is Affecting Both Parents And Kids With ADHD In Big Ways, Why TikTokers Calls Green Noise A Game Changer For Sleep. 5K views, 48 likes, 14 loves, 15 comments, 8 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from The Doctors: Onefunnymommy, Lisa Marie Riley, started making funny videos when her husband was diagnosed with cancer.. There was definitely reminiscing about nights before kids. Normal life seems a very long time ago now ! I will never love another like I do him. My spouse's diagnosis made me realize just how much I loved him. "I think they connected with the fact that I just don't give a sh-t," Riley said. We then had 3 weeeks with no treatments just pain relief, where he put on weight and built up strength. I can't do much to help my husband, other than be there for him. When my husband passes, a part of me will pass with him. Her fans have started a GoFundMe to help with their education. Please stay in touch, Hi missydawn How are things? Once, Riley dreamed of being a weather girl. My husband of 37 years was diagnosed w/ grade III brain tumor in 2012. i feel really evil for being so upset, he is the one that is ill, but I feel he will not help himself, he is just depressed, depressed, depressed. And her family provides her with plenty of material from which to draw laughter. Each day becomes more frightening because you lose a little bit more of them and yourself. Before long, strangers started following along. Do people ever confuse you for Lisa Marie Presley, and if so, do you have any jokes about that? David died this past weekend, a spokesperson for the family said on social media. Hey Cancer, I know you know you suck, but I'm going to tell you again. I don't sleep too well currently. As @onefunnymommy, she became a social media star in a matter of days. If you have the energy to be nasty, then you have the energy to pause and not say it. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. David died knowing he was truly loved, and I was left with the memory of what it was to share a true partnership with a spouse. For eight of the 11 days he was in the hospital after surgical removal of the tumor on the back of his tongue, my husband was unable to speak because of a tracheotomy. that can be difficult. "One Funny Mommy" Lisa Marie Riley joins Dr. Ian Smith to discuss how she started making her funny videos when her husband was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer as a way to cope. That was August 2018. When we were at A&E last week they said that his blood count was so low they were considering transfusion but he insisted on going home and they said hopefully the iron tablets would help. She is known and loved on social media as @onefunnymommy and became an almost overnight sensation. Does it bother you? My husband endured this for 3 weeks, suffering every side effect known. How Humor Helped Woman Cope with Her Husband's Cancer Fight. I appreciated the article because it placed communication as "Number One" on the important list. My kids didnt know who you were. She always had a smile, and rarely, if ever, mentioned her own sadness. Like you I dread every day because it's all about the cancer, everything revolves around the bloody cancer. Lisa Marie Riley @onefunnymommy is a court stenographer turned comedian. I chatted with Lisa Marie to preview her April 2 hop across the Arthur Kill to perform at the URSB Carteret Performing Arts & Events Center. Sign up for Scary Mommy's daily newsletter for more stories from the trenches. I have projects in the works, but I take everything day by day. NOW WATCH: Here's how to get LA's best underground barbecue, Why parents and grandparents across the US are getting vaccinated in spite of their hesitancy. Relate has long waiting lists. We abandoned our old patterns of blaming and misunderstanding. doctor for support, Also consider wether he needs to speak to his doctor about how he is feeling if he is feeling low/depressed. Ive got a long term health condition, have had multipe surgeries for hips and feet and ankle and now mastectomy and reconstruction which is very wonky because, guess what, theres a huge malformation to my chest wall under where they operated. Would you rather do a cooking show, a comedy show or both? The year before 2017, We had purchased a home in another state( before his diagnosis) so we could down size.After the cancer diagnosis things got really unstable, so I left my husband and went there and moved in. When Lisa Marie Riley found out her husband had an aggressive 8lb tumor in his stomach after complaining of a stomach ache, her sister and friends set up an Instagram account for her and told her that, instead of texting them on their group chat (which she hated), she could just post videos to Insta Domestic abuse (verbal/emotional) is NOT acceptable. Riley told CNN that David fought like a bull to the very end., It doesnt feel real what has happened, she said. I have made him move out, and move into his brothers with him for his upcoming treatments and surgery. They dont know the person we knew before Cancer came calling. I recently heard that his son wants the home we shared and tat my husband has made a new will. Spousal relationships should come first. Listen to @onefunnymommy Lisa Marie Riley: F Cancer & Choose Laughter from 10,000 NOs. . You cant steal the vision of his old smile or the sound of laughter so deep its just snorts. I suffer from Panic Disorder, I am being treated and would be considered 'stable' now. Her tiktok videos have racked up over 2.7 million views and she has over 500k followers on her social media platforms. Ive never seen the Carteret Performing Arts & Center, but I am looking forward to performing there and meeting so many wonderful people. By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. Fun is a concept buried far in the past. Husband told me he is stage 2 oral cancer, and it has spread to his neck. but for now, Id be saying do what you can to keep safe first of all, get phone numbers of people like Samaitans and Womens Aid, so someone who can listen to you becomes easily accessible, they are usually accessible online too. I really hope this doesn;t sound selfish, and the main reason I am posting this is to see if anyone else has had the same experience and if so how they coped, and in fact if they coped, becuase I'm struggling and ready to give up. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER. Her second book, All Things Aside, will be released in the fall. Regardless, she is devastated by the current situation. Bongino bravely shared his cancer battle on social media and on his radio show, inspiring others to keep fighting. In 27 years of marriage, I had never touched his feet. Yes, I miss when we were normal people. So stand up for yourself, giving in isn't working. I don't need his money to be happy, I need him ALIVE. He is tense, doesn't talk much though says I am the bright spot in his day he is very distant, seems to want to be alone and is annoyed when I ask how he feels. I am so scared to face life without him, that I've already made myself start doing it. We are a team & we have far too many grandchildren to love & to spoil before we leave this earthly plain. I'm no Saint, nor am I a martyr but just wanting to give whatever support I could. We are people who do hospital stays, doctors appointments, and chemo treatments. Now we are sad people, angry people, depressed most days. "These people have helped me more than I've helped them," Riley said. * To protect your identity do not use your full name. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER, In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, sometimes, just being is enough. He is the champion who held my hand through 12 hours of natural labor, encouraging me without fail until I gave birth to his firstborn son. My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last July, and that his best option would be to have a whipples procedure as soon as possible. Statistically speaking, my 55-year-old husband had a 50-50 chance of dying from his Stage IV oral cancer. The hospice care is very good. How did you find hilarious mommy on Facebook. So if he is unpleasant I tell him so, you do not bite the hand that feeds you. Have you sold out the St. George Theater yet? They're tired, so they want you to turn off . I really applaud you for sharing, you have already helped someone else on here who felt she was the only one dealing with partner behaviour like this, now we know there are at least three of us who get these issues cropping up. During the outbreak of COVID-19, One Funny Mother Dena Blizzard resorted to Facebook Live to keep in touch with her audience of moms and wine aficionados.

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